From the very first date, my last romantic interest had a way of asking me these deep, probing questions. I was initially afraid to answer, but I loved that they challenged me to think in ways I had never had before.
Several months back I answered 25 Questions to free your mind and they were so successful, I wanted to follow up with 25 more. Come play along, there are no right or wrong answers, go with your gut instinct!
1. When was the last time you were really, truly still?
I can’t recall. I find it difficult to just relax, sit still and do nothing. Which is why I’m I struggle to be present in yoga or sit through long movies. I’ve tried meditation but just can’t shut off my mind. Even in bed, I’m constantly tossing and turning. It’s anxiety rearing its ugly head. Relaxation tips welcome!
2. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
This is tricky. Since I’ve traveled so much, I can think of several shortcomings of both my country and the world at large. First and foremost, I would want every child around the world to have access to free, high-quality education, from the age of 5 to 18, no matter sex, income level, or location.
3. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
To be alive is to breathe, to take in clean air and breathe out toxic air. Going through the monotonous motions, from work, to gym, to dinner, to sleep. Living, on the other hand, is refusing to let the rhythms of life make you complacent. It’s being present in the here and now. It’s taking spontaneous adventures. It’s chasing your dreams and stopping at nothing until they are fulfilled. It’s loving every bite of that decadent chocolate lava cake. It’s burning out and failing. It’s being surprised by the unknown and excited by the impossible.
4. Do you believe in love at first sight? Do you believe in soul mates? What makes you fall in love with someone?
I do not believe in love at first sight, but rather lust and desire to know someone on a deeper level. For me, love is beyond purely physical attraction. It takes getting to know a person’s personality, their quirks and flaws, to fall in love. I also don’t believe that there is one specific person each of us is destined to be with. But rather, trial and error in relationships until you find the one who complements you just right, and is willing to make the sacrifices inherit in love.
5. Decisions are being made right now. Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?
I consider myself the driver of my own life. I refuse to sit idly back or hand over my power and let others take control.
6. Describe the next five years of your life, and your plans, in a single sentence.
By New Years 2022, I will be nearing 30, head of digital marketing at an innovative startup, living in SoCal, and ready to start a family.
7. What’s one thing you would say that makes you unique from other people?
Not necessarily unique, but how far I have come from my past days as a shy, awkward perfectionist. I didn’t have many friends and never wanted to do anything out of my element. Today, that could be any more different. I get my energy from meeting new people and traveling new places. 35 countries and counting!
8. Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?
Every time, same story with the cross walks. If the elevator detects that you are in a hurry and need it to come quickly it will accelerate the motors and skip other floors to get to you, of course!
9. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?
A worried genius, I like to think I am already an anxious-minded perfectionist 😉
10. What does vulnerability mean to you?
Letting go of the need for control and certainty. Vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity, passion, and love. Only if we’re willing to stretch beyond our comfort zone, open ourselves to others, and release feelings of inadequacy. Vulnerability is scary. But scary often is the place where courage is birthed and love is seen. I’ve seen this and know it to be true.
11. Do you easily accept compliments? Or do you hate compliments?
I am absolutely terrible with compliments. My response to “You look pretty today”… “Shutupppp” thinking the person is mocking me. It’s bad.
12. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?
I do, like it was yesterday; a bad break up. At the time I felt my whole world was caving in around me. Looking back, I realize how incredibly wrong we were for each other. Something I couldn’t seem to grasp at the time, but now seems crystal clear.
13. If you were going to die at midnight, what would you be doing at 11:45pm?
Call my closest family members to say goodbye and let them know the impact they had on my life.
14. When you’re 90 years old, what will matter most to you?
That I have family surrounding me. And if I’m unable to function outside of a nursing home, that they just let me go.
15. What is one thing you feel your life is missing?
A puppy to cuddle with? A beach front condo? A full time job traveling the world? One day…
16. If you were at heaven’s gates, and God asked “why should I let you in?”, what would you say?
Well, you shouldn’t. I made so many mistakes over the course of my lifetime. But we all deserve forgiveness, right?
17. When will you be good enough for you? Is there some breaking point where you will accept everything about yourself?
Likely never. I’ve been extremely hard on myself ever since I was a little girl. I’ve grown out of my perfectionist ways to some extent but I have so far yet to go.
18. What would people say about you at your funeral?
First of all, I would prefer a celebration of life over a dark and dreary funeral where my loved ones are staring at my cold body in a box. But I would hope my family and friends would speak of the positivity I brought to make the world a better place.
19. What’s one thing that’s happened to you that has made you a stronger person?
Battling an 8 year eating disorder. It has truly shaped everything I am, and all that I am able to overcome today.
20. What’s one thing that’s happened to you in your life that made you feel weak?
Ironically enough, my anorexia, in the moment. While I thought I was so in control of my life, able to carefully choose every single morsel I put into my body, that was far from the case. My life was quickly spiraling out of control and was for many years. See above, I am now much stronger of a person because of this experience.
21. Who do you think has had the largest influence on the person you are today?
Having a mother that is not only an amazing role model, but pushes me to achieve and be my very best self.
22. If you could change one thing about yourself what would it be?
Everyday is one step closer to loving all that I am. But, I think if I could tone down my overanalyzing of the future and just let things happen naturally.
23. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
This lazy Sunday, feeling under the weather in the middle of a cold winter. Sadly, yes.
24. What do you believe stands between you and complete happiness?
I don’t believe I will ever reach complete fulfillment. Each and every day, month and year, I am constantly learning and growing to put my very best self out into the world. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
25. If not now, then when?
My motto ever since graduating from college. I threw comfort to the wayside and decide to move to Australia. Since then, I am fueled by thrilling new experiences at every turn. Life is too short to live comfortably!
Life is filled with unanswered questions, but it is the courage to ask enough of the right ones that ultimately leads you to an understanding of yourself and your purpose.