On Saturday morning I awoke to news from back home that made my heart well up with pride for my country: The US Supreme Court had finally legalised gay marriage in all 50 states. Meanwhile in Australia, we continue to live in the dark ages.As I hop into my Aussie mate’s car that morning (he ironically doesn’t like relationship labels) bubbling with excitement on the historical ruling, the mood is quickly killed.
I don’t see what the big deal is… marriage has become far too institutionalized; a societal expectation of sorts. Why do two people need a piece of paper to prove their love and commitment?
As an unmarried, straight women in my mid-twenties and nowhere near settling down, do I have much authority in this matter? Probably not. But I do have both an uncle and aunt who have been denied the privilege to wed for most of their adult lives. And this makes my heart heavy for them.If my partner and I decide we want to be together forever, why can’t we privately agree to commit and that’s that? Why all of the public ceremonies, vows, rings, stigma, and government involvement? Isn’t love enough?
Civil marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family. It is an association that promotes a way of life, not causes; a harmony in living, not political faiths. Because it fulfills yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is an esteemed institution, and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition. – via
The Supreme Court’s decision isn’t simply about wedding bells, it is about worth. Without the right to choose to marry, one is excluded from the full range of human experience. Today, my family along with many others are finally granted the same rights they should have had all along as human beings; the choice to walk down the aisle and meet their soulmate at the end.
In a traditional wedding ceremony, a couple exchange vows amidst family and friends to promise to love, support, and be faithful to each other “until death do us part.” This public declaration of devotion gains force from a promise of commitment made in front of loved ones.My Catholic upbringing teaches that homosexuality is immoral and unnatural and shuns those who don’t follow the typical Adam/Eve union for the purpose of creating a family. I object to this view in so many ways and am proud of this public statement made by Rev. James Martin, S.J:
No issue brings out so much hatred from so many Catholics as homosexuality. The Catholic church must do a much better job of teaching what the Catechism says: that we should treat our LGBT brothers and sisters with “respect, sensitivity and compassion.”
But God wants more. God wants us to love. And not a twisted, crabbed, narrow tolerance, which often comes in the guise of condemnations, instructions and admonitions that try to masquerade as love, but actual love.
Love means: getting to know LGBT men and women, spending time with them, listening to them, being challenged by them, hoping the best for them, and wanting them to be a part of your lives, every bit as much as straight friends are part of your lives.
Shouldn’t we be more worried about an issue such as climate change which will have a tangible impact on future generations?
No. This is an issue that has a direct impact on the lives of so many human beings. We need to stop thinking of gays as a group to be “tolerated” but rather celebrated. This is one step forward to ending a culture of exclusion and hatred for the LGBT community.
No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were…It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right. – via
There is no “gay marriage”. It is simply marriage, a union of love, and now we all have the right to it. Period.
#LoveWins And that my friends, is a beautiful thing.