One of my all time favorite shows is “Lie to Me” so I decided to throw together a round-up to help you decide if your friends or significant other are being less than truthful with you. Shhh don’t tell them who let you in on these little secrets 🙂
1. Too Many Details
While truth is simple and factual, lie is often embellished. Liars usually have the story all figured out in advance, memorized like a poem so try changing the topic for a second in order to determine if the person is actually telling the truth. A good liar will repeat everything perfectly, a bad one might even make a mistake while a person who’s telling the truth might be like, “Umm? What was I saying?” Also, answering questions that weren’t asked is common.
2. Uncommon Behavior
If you notice that a normally calm person starts getting all restless whenever a certain topic is brought up, change the subject and look for non-verbal clues. Is the person acting differently now? More like her/his usual self? Go back to the “critical” issue and, again, scan for clues.
3. No or Too Much Eye Contact
Some liars feel too guilty to look you in the eyes while some have gotten so good that they’ll do this in order to assure you that what you hear is the whole truth and nothing but the truth! People who rarely make Eye contact will start insisting on it to the point where it becomes totally weird and vice versa. Excessive blinking is another sure sign.
4. Changing the Subject
Liar knows that the longer his story is, the bigger are the chances of you figuring out the truth, so he (or she) will always try to change the subject!
5. Body Language
Liars usually feel the need to keep their hands busy when lying by touching their face, elbows, tug theirclothes or play with their hair but will rarely position the palms hands close to heart Liar’s legs might be crossed, back hunched – almost if he or she was shrinking.
6. Late or Improper Facial Expressions
When a person is genuinely happy or sad, this feeling will be reflected on his entire face (not only lips) and the facial expression will not be a minute late. When telling lies, people often make a sad/happy grimace a few seconds before or after they should and the expression in question isn’t anything like their normal happy or sad face.
7. Anger Try to express even the slightest doubt in liar’s words and he’ll start point his finger at you! Why? Because an attack is the best defense strategy there is! You don’t even have to say “I don’t believe you”, a subtle hint will do because that’s exactly how much a liar (who already knows his story is fake) needs in order to react in a way that will put you on the guilty bench.